Let’s be honest—losing weight and keeping it off isn’t easy. It takes real effort. Not just a few days of eating better or a week of workouts, but consistent, long-term change. And that’s where most people struggle.
We all know what we should do. But the truth is, our brains are wired to take the easy route. It’s not weakness—it’s biology. We’re built to seek comfort, conserve energy, and enjoy immediate gratification. That’s why we reach for the snacks, skip the gym, and tell ourselves, “I’ll start tomorrow.”
But here’s the good news: There’s a way to get your logical brain back in the driver’s seat. It’s a simple, science-backed technique called decision balancing, and it can genuinely change the way you think about your choices.
What Is Decision Balancing?
Decision balancing is a clever little method rooted in exercise psychology and CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy). It helps you weigh up the true costs and benefits of your choices—not just in the short term, but over the long haul.
Most of the time, we don’t think about long-term impact. We think about the now. We eat something ultra-processed because it’s quick and tasty. We skip a workout because sitting on the sofa feels easier. These decisions might feel harmless, but over time, they pull us away from our goals.
Decision balancing forces us to pause and consider:
“Is this choice helping me reach the life I really want?”
Step 1: Define Your Goal (Properly!)
Before you can weigh your decisions, you need a goal that’s actually clear.
Saying “I want to lose weight” isn’t specific enough. We need something solid. Something trackable. Something SMART.
Instead of “I want to lose a stone”, say:
“I want to lose 6kg over 8 weeks. I’ll track my progress weekly using my bathroom scales.”
Why does this matter? Because vague goals lead to vague effort. And vague effort leads to vague results.
Also—keep your goal realistic. Losing 1–2 pounds a week is ideal for most people. It’s sustainable, healthy, and helps keep your motivation intact. It is of course possible to go faster if you prefer—but be aware it means a stricter diet and more time spent exercising. That’s a tough ask if you’re already juggling work, family, and life.
Step 2: The Decision Balance Table
Now for the fun bit.
Grab a piece of paper. Draw a table with two columns and four rows. You’ll now have eight boxes. Label them like this:
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Gains to self
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Gains to others
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Losses to self
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Losses to others
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Self-approval
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Self-disapproval
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Approval of others
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Disapproval of others
This table is your secret weapon. It forces you to really think about what your decisions mean—beyond the next 5 minutes.
Let’s go through two examples I’ve used myself.
Example 1: Choosing to Eat Processed Foods
Gains to self: Tastes good. Saves me time.
Gains to others: A little more free time with people.
Losses to self: Harder to stay within calorie targets. Blood sugar crashes. More likely to binge later.
Losses to others: I’m moody, unhealthy, and less fun to be around. I’d have less time with loved ones in the long run.
Self-approval: None. I’d feel like I let myself down.
Self-disapproval: Definitely. I’d be disappointed I chose short-term comfort over long-term goals.
Approval of others: Not likely.
Disapproval of others: Yep—people I care about would worry or be disappointed.
🧠 Conclusion: Short-term gain, long-term pain. Processed foods aren’t worth the trade.
Example 2: Committing to Jogging 5K Four Times a Week
Gains to self: Weight loss, better fitness, improved mood, clearer skin.
Gains to others: Time to bond with friends who also enjoy jogging.
Losses to self: Slightly less free time—about 2 hours a week.
Losses to others: A bit less time with people who don’t jog.
Self-approval: Big yes. I’d be proud.
Self-disapproval: Only if I let it take away too much time from others.
Approval of others: Definitely—they’d respect my commitment.
Disapproval of others: Not really—anyone who loves me would support it.
🧠 Conclusion: The benefits far outweigh the costs. A few hours of jogging = better health and more confidence.
What If the “Wrong” Choice Seems Better?
Sometimes you’ll fill out your decision balance and find that what you thought was the wrong choice actually has more benefits for you. That’s okay! That’s the point of the exercise—to find your right answer, not someone else’s.
But in most lifestyle-change situations, you’ll find that the healthier option stacks up stronger in the long run. And if your current plan isn’t working, decision balancing can help you find better alternatives—like doing home workouts instead of running, or meal prepping instead of cutting carbs entirely.
This method isn’t just for weight loss. You can use it for anything—job decisions, relationships, finances, even whether or not to buy a new car. If you’re stuck, try this process. You’ll be surprised how clear things become.
Actionable Steps: Put This Into Practice Today
Ready to try it for yourself? Here’s what to do:
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Set a SMART goal
Define your weight loss target in specific, realistic, and trackable terms. -
Pick one key decision you struggle with
e.g., eating takeaways, skipping workouts, snacking at night. -
Fill out your decision balance table
Be honest. Dig deep into how each choice affects you and those around you. -
Look for clarity
Use your filled-out table to decide the best path forward—and identify where you may need to adjust your environment or routine. -
Repeat for other key decisions
The more situations you explore, the more clarity you gain. Over time, this becomes second nature. -
Use coping strategies
If your decision affects others (like taking up jogging), find ways to balance both. Maybe jog early and relax with family after. Win-win!
Final Thoughts
Decision balancing is one of the most effective tools I use with clients. Why? Because it puts the power in your hands. It teaches you to be in control.
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Let’s keep making better choices together.
Stay strong,
Simon =]